It can be hard; bringing up the topic of Assisted Living. For an older adult who may have been the head of their household at one point, resistance can often occur, and the subject can cause tension. In the long run, however, the conversation of Assisted Living is meaningful, especially if your loved one has been experiencing a change in their behavior or day-to-day ability.
Generally, the idea of Assisted Living is one that is rooted in concern for safety for your loved one. Falls start occurring more often, their memory isn’t serving them as well, they don’t eat as often, or they become unsure if they have taken their daily medications. One of the best ways to start the conversation is to respectfully bring up your primary concerns regarding their overall health and safety.
“Mom, I’ve noticed that you seem to be withdrawn and not as active as you once were.”
“Dad, you’ve taken several trips to the hospital and made quite a few doctor appointments.”
Most times, if your loved one sees that you are concerned and have been noticing changes, they might be more receptive. Ask them about their opinion of the changes is. Are they “brushing it under the rug” or have they been noticing the changes too?
One of the most important things you can do to support your loved one is to let them explain to you how they have been feeling. Not only does this give your loved one a voice, but it also allows them to express their thoughts. How do they think that they can fix these things? They may react emotionally and feel that they can fix these issues with a little hard work and more discipline, which can add stress to their situation.
Another vital thing to remember when bringing up Assisted Living is that your loved one can sometimes feel a decision is being made for them. Be sure to include your loved one in every step of this process. Significant life changes deserve sensitivity, so it is best not to leave them in the dark on anything. Keep open communication, collaborate on ideas to ensure that the needs of your loved one are being met throughout the process.
At the Roosevelt House Assisted Living, we are here as an advocate for you and your loved one during this stressful and confusing time. Our goal is to help you find the best choice by giving you the facts you need to know.
We are trained professionals with multiple resources throughout the Mid-Michigan area, and are happy to put those resources to good use for you. Call us at (989) 642-HOME (4663) for more information.